Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Women beating men
Here’s an opinion piece (make sure you read the whole article and not just half) which basically argues that some people are using the fact that both men and women are physically violent towards each other to downplay the seriousness of men abusing women. What do you think? Is it the same thing when a man hits a woman or a woman hits a man? The article quotes an expert who claims that men beat women to express their power whereas women beat men to express their frustration (or lack of power). Is this true, or is violence always an expression of frustration, a lashing out when one one feels powerless otherwise? The article also deals with the recent glorification of female violence in the entertainment world, and argues that people may admire it in the movies but not so much in real life. Is female violence encouraged in our society today?
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On the whole, I am fascinated by the amount of analysis, studies, researches and opinions that exist, about a very negligible issue of women beating men. I would argue that this sort of behavior cannot be regarded as a violence. Any sort of physical abuse, is usually caused by the escalation of conflicts, dissatisfaction and disharmony in a marriage. Therefore I think that more attention should be granted to the actual solving of problems in a marriage. However if we (men), are the victims of women beating, what should be our attitude towards it like ? I, and probably majority of other men, would find it either funny or, as mentioned in the article, hot.
ReplyDeleteWomen beat men to express their frustration, to stress that something disappointed them, or troubles them. In addition, their beating doesn’t cause any injuries to men. Generally speaking, I would define the women beating, as the last appeal for solving the things that aggrieve them. It is always essential to be open towards your partner, tell him about your problems. On the contrary, when women turn to be introversive, and “ boil ” everything inside of them, the real problems emerge. Suspicion, disbelief and disregard towards the partner will sooner or later lead to a divorce, that may be often unnecessary.
In fact, we often see women fighting against each other in movies, usually when they are in love with one and the same man. Consequently, if a woman beats his husband, it is probably because she really loves him. They wouldn’t beat someone they don’t really care about. I tend to believe that women’s aggression, may be a side effect of every serious marriage or relationship. On the contrary, men’s aggression and their abuse of power is problematic, due to their physical superiority, that leads to severe injuries and fear.
Concluding the facts that make up my stand towards this issue, I shall state, that men should appreciate the love they receive from women. One decent slap may often settle the dispute, that could possibly lead to a divorce.
P.S. I am looking forward for your reactions and opinions!
@Dominik:
ReplyDeleteI am extremely happy that we share the common ground on this topic, Dominik! Actually it surprised me for a second how mature your point of view is and how you could zoom out to get a greater picture. And please don’t take it as I was underestimating you, but unfortunately I had a chance to talk to some guys who thought that a slap from girl is equal to their slap and that they should always slap back.
I agree with you on that point where you support the idea from the article about the different reasons for fighting between men and women. Indeed when I think about the times when I punched my dad I probably did it because every other way to really emphasize my opinion on something when he wouldn’t listen was useless in that case. I was frustrated he wouldn’t even hear me talk, he just continued on with his speech and that upset me. Those were the main feelings that drove me to punching him so it basically gives you a supporting feedback to your argument. On the contrary, I also feel that in men’s case it is the showing off their power and superiority that makes them beat women. I share your opinion that not the violence but rather the reason behind it in form of dissatisfaction should be solved and put emphasis on.
However I would slightly disagree with your conviction that women’s violence is always harmless. As also the article mentions, women tend to use heavy objects for hitting and I can imagine such extreme cases when a woman takes a heavy pan and beats her husband with it. But basically you’re right. Mainly when women try to throw something there is a huge chance they will miss anyway so once again it is just a desperate sign from their side that has its roots somewhere else.
RE: Dominik
ReplyDeleteI have to disagree with you on many points. First of all, how can you consider the fact that women beat men a negligible issue? People have to understand that when women beat men, it can be in fact even more frustrating and stressful for the men, than it is for the women when men beat them. This is because of the fact that normally it doesn’t occur that men are being beaten by women and men often need to think of themselves as of the “alpha males” or as of beings with power in order to prosper and live happily.
I agree with you on the point that the majority of men find this problem (women beating men) funny or hot, but it is only because of the fact that they never experienced it. The few of them who experienced such a fearful and not very pleasant beating often don’t even want to talk about it, as they find it embarrassing and this can leave an all-live long trauma in their heads.
As I was reading your comment, I couldn’t believe my eyes. How could you consider women’s beating as harmless? You can find tons of articles of women beating men to death and doing strange and unimaginable things with their bodies. Nowadays many women practice martial arts or even serve in army and therefore are living killing-machines. You also have to understand that many arguments occur in the kitchen, where mostly women know where the dangerous stuff is, including knives, pans and rolling pins. Believe me, these can cause injuries even to men!
However I agree with you that most of the situations where beating occurs can be solved even before the situation throughout calm dialogues and finding a solution to the problems. I also understand that a small slap (from the woman of course) might be very beneficial for the future of the relationship.